Today marks the first post of my new series ‘Elle’s Écrit, Ils Parlent’. We’re starting with a Q&A with the lovely Abby. Abby runs the blog MyLifelines with two of her best friends and together they cover a wide variety of topics from mental health and self care, to woman empowerment. I was so excited to interview Abby, and I hope you enjoy reading!
Ellen: How long have you been blogging for?
Abby: MyLifelines was launched on September 1, 2018! So quite a few months now!
E: Where did the name MyLifelines come from?
A: MyLifelines is run by me and my two best friends, Lauren and Jordan. We have been friends since high school and one day, many years ago, we changed the name of our iPhone group chat to MyLifelines. We’ve been through a lot together and we depend on each other to get through life so it just made sense. And when we started this blog, we wanted to be lifelines to others. If you need us, we are there!
E: How do you find running a blog with your best friends? Are there any challenges?
A: It’s really quite fun to run a blog with your besties. You get to plan and come up with exciting things together and it makes it that much more thrilling. Of course, it has its challenges too. We are all trying to work better on communicating. We have to keep learning our strengths and weaknesses and use them accordingly. It’s a process but it is definitely an amazing one.
E: How long does it take you to write a blog post?
A: This is kind of a hard question for me. It definitely depends on the topic. I sometimes get overwhelmed at the start of a post. I worry I won’t do the topic justice or I get stressed about how I am going to lay it out. After I get past that, I can usually write it up in an hour. But then making it look pretty, adding graphics and editing with fresh eyes adds some time to the overall process for sure.
E: Are your family and friends supportive of your blog?
A: They are! I mean, I know they don’t go reading every single one of my posts but that’s okay. They always ask me about it when I see them. They always want to know if I’ve made it big yet lol! And they read it often enough that I do have to double think on topics before I write. Don’t want to be forthcoming, I suppose! Haha.
E: What inspired your series ‘Women Wednesday’?
A: Ooh, I love this question! But I am not going to lie, it is taking me a hot minute to come up with the best answer! My first thoughts around the series were actually different. I knew I wanted to do something that had a focus, that was a series, instead of just random blog posts, although we do have plenty of those too! I was going to make infographics on famous women and their life timelines. But then I realised I wasn’t all too good at making infographics. My skills have definitely improved over the past couple of months! I then met Annalise Mahanes (Abby’s first ‘Woman Wednesday’ post) and I work for a bosslady who has her own side business (Lela Gerald) and I though ‘why the hell wouldn’t we write about people we know, or go out and meet new people to write about?’ Lauren and Jordan loved the idea, and we’ve been doing it ever since!
E: What’s your favourite blog post you have written?
A: Good lord, I don’t know! My first ‘Women Wednesday’ post was definitely a blast to write. My latest post was on 12 things I learned in 12 months and that felt good to look back on all I’d accomplished. But maybe my favourite so far would be my Female Superhero post. We come up with our blog topics in advance. Not like way in advance, because we aren’t that organised, but a little ahead of time. This post was supposed to be on what feminism is but that week I had read a really good post about it that I didn’t think I could come close to and I was going through a little bout of seasonal depression. I just wasn’t ‘feeling it’. I was at that point where I was going to have to tell Lauren and Jordan I had nothing to post. But then I was watching Marvel movies and the inspiration just kind of hit me. I think the actual process of being hit with inspiration and then knocking the piece out and feeling good about it was better than the actual post. But hopefully people liked it!
E: I enjoyed reading your post ‘Because I am female’. What has been the response to this post?
A: I love that you brought this post up! One of my other ideas for our blog was to have go-to quotes for people because sometimes you just need that perfect quote, right? This post was my first ‘female-focused’ quote pot and I loved it. I love Chimamanda and I love female empowerment. I will say this post actually didn’t get all that much love though, only because it was one of our first and we didn’t exactly have followers back then. But I am so glad you enjoyed it!
E: If money was no object, what would you change about the USA?
A: Oh lawdddd, can I say I’d get a president? Or put Barack Obama back in the presidency? Better yet, we’d take some Michelle Obama if that is an option! That’s kinda the suckiest part about the USA right now.
E: What’s your favourite quote?
A: I ran across this quote the other day and tweeted it because I really love it. Feminism likes to get a bad rap. But this is literally all it means. It just means equality. It means changing the way women are viewed. Because right now, the view is inaccurate.
‘Feminism isn’t about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.’ G. D. Anderson.
If you’d like to be involved in my series, please fill out this application form! I’m still working through some interviews, but I’ll get round to them soon!